There is no doubt that being a parent is not an easy matter, you as a parent are required to produce children who are independent and full of responsibility. Small mistakes in educating children can have fatal consequences which can also affect the patterns of life and habits of the children themselves.
In addition, toddlers are not yet equipped with the ability to be able to distinguish between good and bad ones so that children tend to imitate and adopt ways and behaviors that often occur in their lives. For that, why should the environment be maintained. As you can imagine, what it would be like if the environment where your child grew up was filled with negative things such as a ‘harsh’ environment. Although this is not always the case, the environment is very influential in the next child’s life, including how the parents’ pattern in educating their children.
The difference will be striking in children who grow up and are raised in warm and loving families with children who always get a ‘hard’ pattern of education from their parents. Unfortunately, not many parents know how to provide a good environment for their child’s optimal growth. As a result, the children did not grow as expected. To further introduce how good environmental patterns are for educating children, here are some things that should be avoided when educating children:
1. Demanding Perfection Beyond the Capabilities of Children
Your attitude in demanding your child to show maturity in certain attitudes or targets that are generally beyond the ability and reach of your child, will only give birth to children who are too ambitious in all things. Having an ambition for a goal is indeed a good thing, but if the achievement process itself is never appreciated and the child only puts forward quantity. This is not good for him psychologically, it is not impossible that when a child grows up he will do anything as long as what has been his target he can achieve. In addition, suing a child “harshly” will only lead to stress and trauma. For that, give children the opportunity to try out their hobbies first, so that over time, they will begin to understand that their achievements also need to be taken into account.
Facing a child who is a little unruly is confusing and sometimes even a little annoying. But threatening behavior, even if it’s subtle or rude, is not justified. For example, facing a child who has difficulty chewing food by fearing that their teeth will become toothless and so on will only have a bad impact. Threatening in a subtle or high tone will not solve the problem. Threats are effective in getting children to obey all of our orders, but they are only temporary. Because it is based on fear, not just the child’s consciousness. And one day when the child begins to understand he will feel cheated.
3. Be aware of your behavior
Children tend to imitate all the behavior that is done by their parents. Your behavior such as talking and behaving will all be imitated by the child. For that, you should be more careful in speaking and acting when in front of your baby. Wrong, they will even imitate all your behavior, including your bad habits.
4. Too Depressing
Attitudes are too controlling and directing children, without paying attention to children’s rights to determine their own desires and paths or develop their interests and talents in the fields they love. It will result in psychology such as being sluggish, having no stand, always working according to orders like a robot, and it is not impossible to make children like to fight when they start to defend themselves later. For that, it would be better if you give children the opportunity to choose which fields they like. For example, when a child likes to scribble, give him the opportunity to enjoy his hobby, from there you can start directing him to painting activities where this talent will be useful for his life later.
5. Too Weak
Sometimes when a fussy child wants something you tend to give in by giving them what they want even though it will be a little inconvenient for you. However, this pattern of students actually violates the rules. Children at the age of five do not yet recognize rights and obligations. As a result, children become demanding, tend to be selfish, impulsive (easy to do without going through long calculations), and do not pay attention to the interests of others. For this reason, the role and good parenting are needed at this phase. But that doesn’t mean you have to be hard on children, the most important thing to raise children’s awareness is your firm attitude towards children.
6. Breaking promises
When you make a promise to a young child, never think of it as trivial things and can be broken because they are young. Children at an early age will understand better than you might imagine. They will understand whether you show priority to them or not. To form a better child’s personality, it is better if you also fulfill what you have promised to the child.
7. Harsh Speech
At the age of five, your little one will begin to learn to imitate what he hears from the people around him and his environment. They will absorb what they hear and witness without filtering which things are good and bad. For that, do not ever say harsh words in front of children. Sometimes parents get out of control by releasing inappropriate words when angry. However, it would be better if you do not mention it in front of children.
8. Pushing Too Hard
Support and encouragement are indeed important for children so that children are motivated and motivated to do various positive things. But there are things you have to be aware of is ‘pushing’ excessively. Maybe when friends his age can do something, the same thing he wants to force on his own children. Instead of children being motivated, they will be depressed and depressed. For this reason, you should adjust the portion of the achievement to the ability of your little one so that he is not too overwhelmed.
9. Too Spoiling Children
Constantly shower your child by buying him luxury and expensive items or giving him special services, without considering what they really need. It will only give birth to children with individuals who are easily bored, lack fighting power, and lack initiative. For this reason, provide enough service with what the child needs, before he gets used to your ‘spoiling’ behavior.
At the toddler age, children will begin to absorb all information and also imitate all the actions of the people around them. Of course this is the time when parents should provide guidance and are required to be more careful in their behavior.