The age for determining the ability of children to speak varies, but basically at 4 years of age your child’s ability to explore and also play with their favorite objects. Even though you have lots of friends, you often find your child talking to himself, according to 4 year old child development experts they are often talking to themselves. This has to do with imagination, expression of emotions and fantasies. You do not rush to think of this negatively, because by speaking alone your child is practicing to guide himself in preparing his ability to speak in his environment.
Actually, not only children who often talk to themselves, even adults often have the habit of talking to themselves, but the difference is that adults talk more in their hearts so that no one knows when they are talking, in contrast to children who express more directly. Talking to children alone is an important factor in cognitive development. By talking to themselves, children are often doing a thought process in dealing with situations that will be found in their environment. In addition, talking alone plays a role in children’s ability to control themselves, then it can also increase children’s abilities in problems.
Research conducted on children who often talk to themselves is closely related to the social life of children in the future. One of them is research conducted by Russian psychologist, Vygotsky, who found that children often talk to themselves often interact because their ability to speak themselves is taken from their social experiences. So that it allows children to be able to interact with the environment more easily than children who have the habit of talking to themselves. The ability of children to speak on their own will disappear as the child grows up to enter the school environment. Even so, there are also children who have pseudoscience fantasy friends, namely what they think is real by the child even though they don’t exist at all, usually children who have sixth sense abilities have this pseudoscience fantasy friend. Even his abilities will continue until he is an adult.
In distinguishing your child’s fantasy friends, you can follow the steps below:
1. Children often play with objects when imagining
At the age of 4 years old children usually talk to themselves by holding objects. Occasionally will tell stories with some of his favorite objects, this often indicates that your child is practicing his skills, whereas if your child is playing without holding an object while he is looking at an object or fantasy friend, it often leads to a pseudoscience fantasy friend.
2. Imagine friends of favorite characters
If your child often has imaginary friends such as superhero characters, comic characters or playmates this is an ongoing imagination. However, if your child mentions not from a favorite character or friend, and is often mentioned repeatedly for a long time, he is suspected of being a pseudoscientific fantasy friend.
3. The child’s imagination is still normal
If your child is playing with a favorite object without feeling frightened and stops when he is bored, your child is talking to himself with his imagination, while children who have pseudoscience friends often scream, cry, even get scared because of their imaginary friends.