Educating naughty and naughty children to be obedient and obedient children is not as easy as turning the palm of the hand.
It takes patience and extra effort and hard work to continue to teach and educate them to be someone who is obedient and obedient to all the good commands given by their parents. Many parents are made dizzy in educating stubborn and naughty children, if they travel and bring their baby to a new place, they will easily travel around and run back and forth and disturb other people and when we are reprimanded and advised they will turn around cry not accept or even attack us with beatings and so on.
When this happens, not only will you feel inconvenient, but also when children struggle in public, this will make mothers feel ashamed and difficult to control them so that in the end we are often irritated and frustrated and the most feared thing is mistakes by hurting our own child.
If we look at many cases today, in practice many parents are impatient to face and control naughty children and they tend to commit violence as a solution to controlling and controlling naughty children. So is it true that this method is considered the best solution in dealing with naughty children? Is it effective to use violence capable discipline and make a naughty child obedient and obedient? The answer is of course not.
Disciplining naughty children and making them obey all we say cannot be done by violence. On the contrary, this will actually make your child even wilder and not afraid of anyone. In this case parents must be able to apply parenting styles and ways of educating naughty children to be obedient and obedient but not done by means of violence such as playing hitting, playing with pinches or threats, because these things will have a negative impact on the child’s growth. So, here are some ways to discipline naughty children so they can obey and be obedient to their parents.
1. Do not give the predicate “naughty” to children
While you often find your child very difficult to control and often fussy when given advice and understanding, then do not rush to give them the title ‘bad boy’, ‘naughty child’ and so on. You know, the predicate of naughty that you give them will make them not confident with their environment. In addition, the predicate that you have already given these children will make them feel like they are given a label that continues to stick with them so that it makes them feel wasted when they become good children.
Instead of judging and giving him such a predicate, it is better if when the child makes a mistake immediately approach your child and hold him by the shoulder and then give them the understanding not to make the mistake because it is an act that is not praiseworthy. Don’t miss giving your child a look and making them promise not to repeat it.
2. Be a Good Example
When you expect your child to grow up and become a child with modest and good behavior, then first improve our attitude and be a good example for them. The most effective lessons that can be given to children are not only limited to theory and advice, but must also be accompanied by practice and reality. In addition, children will generally imitate what they witness. If our actions and behavior are not in accordance with the prevailing norms, then don’t be surprised if your child can be very naughty and difficult to control.
3. Be Gentle
When a child makes a mistake, especially when the act is done in public which makes us embarrassed, it feels like we want to scold them. However, as good parents, we shouldn’t vent our anger at the same place, let alone witnessed by many people. Mistakes that your children make may be an accident that makes them make mistakes, so control your anger and ask them why it happened until they did. After that, just give advice and convey it gently. Your child may feel ashamed and guilty about the problems he has made, so do not exacerbate his remorse with your verbal abuse which will make them even more depressed.
4. Set Rules and Give Strict Sanctions
Another way of dealing with and educating naughty and naughty children to become obedient and obedient is by setting rules to limit children’s behavior. In addition, enforce strict sanctions for them. But of course not by using violent means that will hurt children and put them in danger. For example, when you enforce the rules for learning hours from 7 to 8, while your child is busy playing games on their computer. So give him sanctions such as taking his computer and not allowing him to play games until the night study time has been completed. In this way, children will slowly complete their obligations before taking their rights.
5. Be a Consistent Parent
Stop tolerating children when the rules you enforce are broken. The more tolerance you give, the more free your child will break all the rules you have made for them. That way they will tend to become rebellious and unruly.
For this reason, try to be a parent who is consistent in all the rules you make. With assertiveness and consistency with yourself, you will make children reluctant to break the rules you make because there are sanctions they must bear for everything.
In essence, whether it is recognized or not, the cause of the child to be obedient or even naughty is more or less influenced by parental interference in implementing parenting styles for children. For this reason, the mother’s parenting style in educating their children will determine their character. The method above is expected to be able to help discipline stubborn and naughty children into obedient and obedient children. It’s just that, staying patient is the main key to the success of this point.