Negative behavior carried out by parents who without knowing it will be imitated by their children. Children are god beings who are innocent and do not know anything, so what happens in their environment they perceive it as a lesson they will absorb, including negative behavior that is often displayed by their parents.
Well, here is a list of negative attitudes by parents that the child has the potential to imitate.
1. Fight in front of children
Often times parents unconsciously show fights in front of their children. This is done spontaneously due to irresistible emotions, so that fights just happen in front of the child. Arguing and arguing with the partner in front of the child should not have happened. Because things like this will be bad for the child. It could be that the child’s perspective in solving a problem with other people is wrong. It could be that your child thinks that solving problems should be done by means of noise and violence, not by deliberation and gathering. Conversely, try when your emotions explode, take your partner into the room or to a place that is not occupied by children and solve problems with a calm heart and mind. In addition, give your little one the understanding that deliberation with a clear heart and mind is the right solution in solving problems.
2. Crude Speech
At such a young age, children tend not to have the ability to filter and distinguish which good things can be done and which things cannot be done. So that when children often hear harsh words on purpose or unintentionally they will imitate these words and throw them as they like. For that, pay close attention not to let your child utter words that he shouldn’t say because once they hear, then this word will be in his mind.
3. Inconsistent in Enforcing Regulations
For parents, enforcing rules for their children in the house is considered the most appropriate way. However, just being right is not enough, the consistency of parents in upholding the rules is an important thing that must be done. Because this will confirm that all children’s activities will be limited in a regulation. When you are inconsistent and change the rules you have made, this will confuse the child and make each rule uncertain. Finally, this will give birth to a child who is unstable, hesitant and afraid to make decisions. Therefore, enforce one or more rules, no need for many. Because the most important thing in enforcing a rule is firmness and consistency.
So, those are some important points about things that you should pay attention to in everything you do so that children don’t imitate.