In the early stages, your baby will use a number of non-verbal cues to express his feelings. When your baby is happy or satisfied, he smiles, babbles or makes gentle movements. However, when he is not happy, then he will breathe faster, tug at his clothes or of course cry. Such non-verbal cues are early signs of self-awareness and self-disclosure. These two things are the first signs for self-awareness and self-disclosure. These two things are important components of what is termed the emotional quotient (EQ), aka emotional intelligence.
The term EQ was first introduced by John Mayer and Petter Salowey in the early 1990s. In 1995, Faniel Coleman popularized this term through his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter Than More IQ. The term IQ itself refers to a person’s ability to understand his feelings and the feelings of others and his ability to act accurately based on that understanding. Many people now believe that EQ is more important than IQ in determining a person’s success.
If you continue to pay close attention, between the ages of four and five months, babies begin to experience and display a much higher range of emotions, such as joy, sorrow, anger and joy. Offer a new game, for example, to your baby who is five months old, then he will express his surprise by opening his eyes wide. To encourage this self-disclosure of your baby, you can respond by identifying his feelings by saying: “Oh, you are happy, honey!” Your responses will go a long way in teaching your baby about the emotions it suggests.
When you smile, for example, widen your eyes and let out your happy voice, then he will tell your baby about the sensation of joy he is feeling. The more he knows how much response you are showing, the more your baby’s EQ level will increase. As with temperament, EQ is partly born. Even so, some of it can be learned. It is not too early to help your baby explore and manage his feelings. And by helping her, you have laid a foundation that will be of great help to her future EQ development.