Every parent certainly wants to have a child who is smart, smart and has noble character by upholding morality and ethics in society. However, giving birth to children with these characteristics and attitudes is certainly not as easy as snapping fingers. It takes effort and struggle where all attitudes and efforts made by parents will influence and determine the character that is formed in the child.
Caring for and educating children in the family is certainly not done arbitrarily and at will, there are certain parenting knowledge and tricks that each prospective parent of course either directly or indirectly has prepared for this knowledge.
Even if a couple of parents in the family have applied the best parenting skills to the children in the family, not all will have the same result. Each child in the family certainly has a different character and character. Although the character and attitude in a person are not carried over from birth, they are part of the character building given by his parents. Still, we cannot deny that there are some of the characters and attitudes in children that we find difficult to conquer. Not surprisingly, today many parents are willing to do everything they can, even to the point of spending a lot of money to get advice from parenting experts so that they can apply the right parenting patterns for the children in their families.
Meanwhile, most parents spend a lot of time studying on the internet and looking for many sources on how to educate and parenting. There are also some who believe in some of the myths of parenting children and apply them in the family. They generally get the myth of parenting or parenting as part of the culture that has been carried out by their family or previous people, so that inevitably this has become a part of their life that they must apply to their children. Parents unwittingly ignore the benefits they get from implementing such parenting methods.
The pattern of parenting towards their children is what will always determine the character and personality that appears in the child. For that, choose and apply parenting patterns the best is what parents should always have. So, so that parents do not get trapped by parenting methods that are considered myths, which are not always correct, we should consider what are the following parenting myths.
1. Being a Parent So His Life Will Be Confused and Tired
One of the myths we hear most often is the myth of being a parent. Many say that by becoming a parent, a new life will begin, a life decorated with many tiring household activities. Not to mention, this life will feel so chaotic when you have to deal with children who are fussy and always want to win alone. This is at least a myth that is so popular, because the popularity of this myth is often seen in soap operas or films where they are increasingly dramatizing it with sad fictional stories. But of course this is not true.
Being a parent is not a bad and sad decision. Parents are a great role and a noble status. This is where the real beginning of a person’s life begins. By deciding to become a parent, you will experience valuable lessons and how to love the parents who gave birth to us and feel the responsibility to educate and raise the gift of children from God.
In addition, there are many special tricks to make parenting a fun and peaceful thing in your day, namely by organizing a routine and discipline for the children so that they can become more obedient.
Worries and fears before becoming parents are normal. However, believe the love and love for the baby that we have worked so hard to give birth to will make us forget everything and all that is in our minds is just how to be happy and make the baby feel comfortable.
2. Good parents are those who enjoy children’s games
In order to be good parents, we then have to pretend to like and love what children like, including games using alien costumes that kids like so much.
There is no need to try so hard to be what your children want, even pretending to love what you really don’t like. When you feel that alien costume games are not suitable for you and often make you inconvenient because you have to share time with other household activities, you skip it. So, there is no need to feel guilty by apologizing to children until begging. Not solving problems and making you a good parent. This will actually form a new personality in the children, namely the children will be arbitrary to you.
As a good parent in order to spend quality time with children, you can find or suggest other games that you like together. This way the kids will love it and you will be happy to do it too. The most important thing about the game is the quality time you spend which can better bond the parent to the child.
3. Parents Must Be Perfect If They Want Their Children To Be Good
Regardless of where this myth came from and who proposed it. But what is clear, this is of course wrong. No parent is perfect, only parents trying their best to be the best for their children. In addition, even though we have the title of parent, we are still all human beings who are not free from mistakes. Parents may make mistakes. Thus, no parent is perfect, it’s just that these mistakes are not to be repeated or regretted, but to be corrected and not repeated in the future.
No matter what problems and mistakes we have done in the past, never be afraid and feel pessimistic if our children will not be okay. The most important thing is to try to be better, correct the mistakes if it is still possible and promise not to repeat them. And try everything and do everything in your power to be a good example and educate children with all your might so that they are useful for themselves, other people, religion and their nation.
The most important point is to enjoy your role as a parent and focus on how to educate children, not paying attention to the fears and myths that exist.
Educating children is an important thing to do because this is what will determine the character and personality that grows and develops in children. For this reason, using all means and applying the best parenting methods by avoiding wrong parenting patterns is an important asset for educating quality children. Hopefully the above will be of benefit to all of us.