Every parent would want the best things for their baby.
Parents certainly want the children they bring to the world to grow up to be successful, intelligent children and to be pleasant personalities for their environment. They want their children to be able to live happily, have a good career, behave pleasantly and so on.
Unfortunately, not all parents understand that each child has personality, character and even different ideals. So, it cannot be if a parent imposes his will and applies the same parenting pattern to all child assuming that they have successfully applied the previous parenting patterns to their children.
Often we, as parents, impose our wills and desires on children without considering the children’s abilities, readiness and feelings on the pretext of wanting our children to get the best for their lives. This is what happens to parents who apply hyper parenting parenting.
What is Hyper-Parenting Parenting?
Hyper-parenting is a parenting pattern that is done with excessive parental control. In this parenting pattern, parents have an absolute and high degree of control over their children. In this parenting, parents try hard to pay attention to whatever the children do and everything that is given to their children. Of course this is done in order to anticipate various problems that may occur both now and in the future.
The goals and intentions of parents who tend to apply this kind of parenting are based on compassion and love for their children. In addition, the great desire of parents so that their children can become a better generation, especially if they compare it to their previous condition, is what encourages them to tend to be more protective of their children. It’s just that, in this parenting style, parents have too high a level of anxiety, so they tend to pursue it more for emotional reasons.
Generally, hyper-parenting parenting is influenced because their parents are dissatisfied with the parenting patterns they received as a child. It could be that a parent is dissatisfied with career achievements or life as a whole. As a result, this gave birth to all the obesity plus the misfortune it was imposing on her children today.
By implementing this kind of education, parents feel that their children can get what they did not previously get. However, this will not necessarily match your needs, interests, talents or materials the baby’s desire.
In parents who do this, children will tend to feel more anxious and worried. Why not, parenting patterns that are too controlling and impose their will will make the children insecure.
In fact, it is only natural that parents expect their children to fulfill their desires. However, we also need to know that imposing our will is not the best way to solve problems. There is a fatal impact that will be caused to children, which can hinder their growth, but it can also cause excessive anger because children feel they do not have their freedom.
Apart from some of the things above, there are also a number of other things and bad effects that can be caused to parents who implement hyper parenting parenting. What are these things? Let’s look at the following.
1. Make Children Easily Anxious
By applying this parenting pattern, the child’s life will tend to be unsettled. Why not, excessive regulation and the pattern of educating children by continually including parents in them will automatically make children anxious. What’s more, children often tend to feel less confident or less free to express themselves when their parents act as if they are.
For this reason, it is natural to provide support to children by continuing to be by their side. However, it is not wise to impose your will on the children. Let the children choose what they want. This way the children will be able to live it happily.
2. Children Explosive Emotions
The application of hyper-parenting parenting generally tends to make parents often dictate to children and give lots of orders and ask them to be able to comply with their parents’ wishes. This is what in the end, makes children tend to be stiff.
In addition, they will get a lot of pressure from their parents, especially when the orders or wishes of the parents do not match what they like. This in turn will make children’s emotions quickly explode.
3. Children Become Less Active
Habits that are always “directed” and “dictated” make children only will be limited. Parents’ habits that give orders or emphasize their will to children, make them constantly limited to what you expect. Without you knowing it, this is what makes children grow up to be less creative individuals. It is different with children who are given better parenting patterns, such as children who are cared for in democratic care. Children in this case will tend to be freer and more cheerful, because they are given space for expression but without eliminating supervision from their parents. Children like this are certainly more creative and smarter.
4. Depression in Children
It is possible that children who are often preoccupied with various activities and tasks given by their parents in order to “manage” children will create a gloomy personality, lack of expressiveness and even find it difficult to make friends. This, of course, makes sense if children who are burdened with piling up tasks and activities make them more likely to be busy with their activities and make them slowly ignore their social world.
5. Disturbed Health
Obviously, children who are given many tasks such as tutoring, tutoring and many other activities, drain the child’s energy and mind. Gradually, the children’s energy will decrease and they will no longer be able to face the myriad activities their parents give them.
Even though you want the best for your children, that doesn’t mean you can ignore the bad effects and negative sides they can face from this kind of parenting. Parents also need to consider this for the good of the child as a whole.
Implementing the best parenting style is the key to the success of parents in educating children to become better and better quality generations of the nation. For this reason, recognizing the good and bad impacts that may arise on a parenting pattern is the initial capital to be able to determine what kind of parenting style you will give to your beloved baby.