Often parents feel dizzy with the delinquency and disgraceful behavior of their young children.
Difficult to advise, running here and there and even disobeying all the advice we give, especially when the child’s behavior has started to harm others and even hurt his friends, it feels like I want to tangle the child and vent all our frustrations and hope that the child can immediately obey and obey on all the orders that we give.
But mother, do you know that hitting or doing violence to children is not the right way to do it discipline them and make them obey all of our words. On the contrary, this can actually have a negative impact and have a negative effect on children’s mental development.
Unfortunately, there are still many parents who assume punishment and violence are the best solutions for disciplining their children. This is largely influenced by various factors, including based on experience. You may have seen or heard of your friends who have recalcitrant children, use spanking as a punishment that makes children easily deterred and apparently it works. But is that true? The answer is of course not.
Every child has a different character and character. In addition, the patterns of upbringing and care given by parents to their respective children are not the same. So when you see your friend disciplining his child with violence and it has proved successful, it doesn’t mean the same thing can happen to your child. Maybe, your friend applies this pattern of education because it is supported by the child’s mental weakness when given violence or it could be because it has been a hereditary rule in your friend’s family, so that all family members have made it an absolute rule that must be carried out all family.
Meanwhile with your child, maybe your child’s character is a tough character so facing it with violence again will certainly not solve the problem. On the contrary, this will only add to the problem and make your relationship with your baby worse.
In addition, pediatricians warned parents not to beat their children. This warning is motivated by the reason that if once parents give violence to children, then the worse thing they can do next time to their children. Experts also point out that the equivalent relationship to physical assault is bad behavior that is very ineffective, because violence does not discipline the child and make them feel deterred, it actually worsens the child’s behavior.
Behavior hitting and practicing violence against children is not only done by parents. Even though the parents have tried very hard not to do this to their children and with all their might to protect children they. However, it cannot be denied that the bad treatment that children receive sometimes comes from their closest people who are always with them every day, for example, like their older siblings or their caregivers. Now, if you find this happening to your children, then immediately overcome it because there are so many bad effects that can be generated from child spanking. So, in order to make parents more alert, here are some of the bad effects that result from hitting children.
1. Spanking Children Will In fact Give Birth to Spanking Children
Quite a lot of research shows that children who are often punished with violence and spanking often give birth to children who have aggressive and deviant behavior. This may not affect children immediately when they are young. But something worse will happen to the behavior of children when they reach adolescence and as adults. Because this happens when they are young, children will naturally learn how to behave by observing and imitating their parents’ attitudes.
If their fathers often beat their children when they are young, especially if the child is a girl, it will make them grow up to be a person who does not respect other people and thinks violence is a way to conquer someone.
You certainly don’t want this to happen to your sons and daughters, right? For this reason, avoid giving punishment and violence that can hurt children. We understand very well, our resentment often makes us sink into anger that is difficult to control. But at least, take a look and think again about how much loss you will get by hitting them.
2. Not Solving Problems, Instead Worsens Parent-Child Relationships
The bond between parents and children should be based on love and affection. It is not hatred like an enemy with an enemy. Every time your child makes a mistake and breaks the rules and every time you give a beating as a punishment, this of course takes away the love and love between the child and the parent and vice versa.
Rather than punching, tweaking or pinching the child when they do something wrong. It’s good, if you go up to them and ask why they do this. After knowing the reason, just consider punishing the child if the mistake was done on purpose. It’s just that, avoid giving painful and sadistic punishments, instead provide educational punishments that deter children from committing similar mistakes.
3. Making Children Assume Violence Is The Solution to Solving Problems
When you punish with violence, this does not solve the problem and make the child obey you. In fact, it may be the other way around, it could be caught and assumed by the child that hitting and hurting people who are smaller than them is the right thing to do. In addition, children will also assume that violence is the best way to face and solve problems.
Now, if this has been embedded in the child, then get ready with a hard character that will grow in them. Don’t be surprised if when your children grow up they often fight and have arguments with their other friends.
4. In children who are easily angry, this will grow resentment
Your behavior that often punishes and hits your children, especially children who get angry easily will not only make them upset. It will also cause anger that they don’t dare to express will be buried in their hearts. Which if this keeps happening, the child’s anger will continue to accumulate and become a grudge against their parents.
When they grow up, it is not impossible that they will do the same thing and treat their parents with disrespect because they think their parents are enemies to be fought.
For this reason, paying attention to your parenting styles for children since they were young is something that you should always pay attention to. You certainly don’t want it if the baby you are raising so hard will turn to attack you and reply to you inappropriately.
Those are some of the impacts that can be resulted from the habit of hitting children. Some of the effects above are just a few of the results of the habit of hitting children frequently. Hopefully this can be a consideration for parents not to apply violence to their beloved baby.