At certain ages, including toddlers, children will learn to interact with their environment. The responses produced by each child are also different, there are children who are easy to melt away and familiar with new situations, there are also children who need time to observe a new environment before finally they can melt away and become familiar with their new environment.
Although there is no scientific research that proves that shy children have difficulty learning or failing at work. However, growing self-confidence in children is the most basic thing for their social life in the future. In addition, self-confidence also plays a role in shaping a person’s mindset which influences him to take action. That way, this will make it easier for children to get along, show their potential with self-confidence which ultimately leads to their success later.
Shyness and behavior in children can be triggered by several backgrounds, such as:
1. Less Societal
Shyness will occur when children live in backgrounds that are neglected by their parents, or are raised in families that are alienated, too restrained, so that they cannot form and experience normal social relationships with society. So that when children are introduced to the public, they will tend to be more silent and want to continue with you.
2. Bad Experience
When children experience many events that cause them to have shame judgments. This will affect his mindset which impacts his behavior. For example, when he appears singing in front of many people with the eyes of the audience only on him, this way the child will think that standing in front of the crowd is a shame so he will stop doing it because of the shame he feels.
3. Child feels a source of attention
Shy children sometimes feel that they are being noticed by many people or they will feel embarrassed if they are the subject of many people’s conversations. Things like this cause children to be afraid and anxious to act or argue because they are worried that what they are doing is wrong and become the laughing stock of people.
4. The wrong initial upbringing
Shame in children may occur due to incorrect initial parenting when the child is a baby, especially in the first two years of age. Because the baby’s brain at that age is experiencing very rapid development and this is the time when the baby starts to develop a pattern of associating something. For example, your habit will immediately run and hold the baby when he cries. Babies who get this kind of treatment will be spoiled and feel loved. This feeling is of course good for the baby, but if given excessively like treating a child like a princess who is always served all the time is not too good for him. Children who are always spoiled, will feel lost and lonely as if they have no grip and don’t know what to do when they are away from their parents. Meanwhile, children who are babies who are not always spoiled by their parents tend to be able to overcome feelings of loneliness and be able to display their self-confidence well.
5. Not given the opportunity to interact
One of the factors that triggers a child to be shy can be because he does not have peers to play with. So that he rarely interacts with other people and when he meets new people in a new environment, they do not know how to interact or introduce himself to other people because they are never invited to go out to play, go to parks or not go to school. Children who are not given the opportunity to interact with children their own age because they have limited space to move with their family at home will make the child perceive that someone other than their family is a threat. And this is what makes him withdraw from the crowd and public places.
Here are some trigger factors that can make children shy. But don’t worry, as explained above that shyness in children is not part of development, but as a result of the learning process from their environment. In other words, you parents can still overcome your child’s shyness. What is the way to deal with and deal with a shy child? Here are the key points.
How to Deal with Shy Children
1. Let Children Explore
Apply good parenting to children since he was a baby, by providing opportunities for him to explore everything he wants. Which of course is under your supervision if your little one does activities, exploration or other things that put him at risk. Let your baby grow and develop to build his own image.
2. Don’t Give Children a Predicate
When you recognize the attitude and know that the child has a shy attitude. Don’t occasionally give him the title of being shy. Giving the title of being shy to children is not the right action, because children never think that they are shy. If he is often said to be shy, it is not impossible for him to become aware and more ashamed which ultimately leads to the psychological choice of the child who chooses to withdraw from his environment. It is better when children lack confidence to develop in their environment, give them encouragement and confidence that they can do it. This way the child will be more motivated to be brave.
3. Bring Your Child With You During The Visit
When making visits such as visits to neighbors, social gathering or weddings. It’s good, if you start to bring your little one. By inviting your little one to visit new places and meet new people will make him accustomed to the environment and new people. So that your little one becomes more courageous and confident.
4. Put Children in School
In addition to being able to hone children’s social intelligence, enrolling them in kindergarten or kindergarten can foster a higher level of self-confidence. Because by going to school, children will meet and get to know various characters of people and try to adjust to the environment outside their home. In this way, children will play while honing their own skills in socializing with friends their own age. (Read: 7 Important Tips for Choosing Kindergarten Schools (TK))
5. Parental Support
Parental support and encouragement is the most important thing to foster a child’s self-confidence. When children have not succeeded in doing something, never isolate them or think they are weak, this will only make children depressed and less confident. For that, keep motivating and trusting you that children can go through and do it.
The shyness or inferiority of a child can make his talents and potentials not fully demonstrated and explored. Other people also cannot see the full ability of the child, if the child withdraws from the social and opportunities for success that might just be missed. But by knowing some tips for overcoming shy children, you can apply them to children so that they can be more courageous and confident in showing their potential.