There is no parent who wants if the blood and flesh that they are born into the world with difficulty, grow up to be someone who has character and character that is not praiseworthy.
Every parent certainly desires that their children have good morals and grow into a humble person so that they are easily accepted in their environment and liked by many people. Why not, children who grow up with commendable morals will automatically be able to create a peaceful and serene environment around them. They will also be easily liked by many people because of their positive impact on the environment. Other than that, children with good character and have a commendable character, of course, will have a brighter future than children who are tough and unruly.
So, to get all this, of course, is not obtained easily, as easy as snapping two fingers. To be able to have smart children requires a lot of struggle and hard work and the key is never-ending patience. Because only by being patient and struggling, everything will be able to bear fruit sweetly.
It’s just that hard effort and patience are apparently not enough to produce children who have good morals and have noble character. The role of parents is needed in educating children, namely by being role models or good examples.
As we all know that children are excellent imitators. This means that they are good imitators, everything they will absorb from their environment will be applied as an implementation of what they see. This is natural, because the ability to imitate is the first skill he can do. For this reason, considering everything that their children see they will do and imitate in such a way without being filtered, it is important and very necessary for parents to maintain and pay attention to their attitude in front of their children.
At their very young age, children are not equipped with the ability to recognize what is good and what is bad, including when they imitate what they see. Children cannot yet understand that saying harshly is an act that is not praiseworthy and they should not imitate it, nor do they understand that lying is an act of sin. However, if they never see this from their environment, then it is impossible for children to do this on their own initiative, but to see other people doing it.
For this reason, maintaining attitudes and actions in front of young children is an important thing that must really be considered. Sometimes, it is difficult for us to control anger when resentment has clouded our minds, so that in the end we easily vent it to the person concerned and don’t care whether the child sees it or not. However, pay attention again, this will be a loss for you. Children will easily implement this regardless of place and time. So don’t be surprised, if your child grows up to be a stubborn and unruly person.
So, for that, some of the things below are a list of things you should not do in front of children to prevent them from imitating this despicable act.
1. Spitting anger at children
Not only anger at children, resentment towards anyone is not allowed to be expressed in front of children, especially when your child is very young. By throwing anger and resentment in front of your children, this will actually make them think that all the annoyance you pour out in front of them is assumed to be their source.
You may not mean to express your anger when your favorite team lost playing football. It’s just that, you spontaneously spoke in front of them. But still, this will make them think it was driven by their mistake.
Besides, it is unwise to feel just a little irritation, and then you throw it excessively in front of the children. Not only will it make children feel afraid, this can be caught by your child who thinks that yelling and cursing is a solution to get rid of problems and feelings of annoyance.
2. Busy Playing Gadgets
Although sometimes we think toddlers still don’t understand many things, including when they interrupt their chats by playing gadgets. However, this is wrong, by constantly playing with the gadget and making all of your attention sucked into the gadget you are holding. This will actually provoke the child’s curiosity to try a tool that can make you so fun playing it.
As citing the explanation of a clinical psychologist and parenting expert named Carrie Contey, explaining that if you want your child to not be a person who is busy playing on phones and tablets before he can walk, then you have to get rid of these equipment and devices when you are with the child. Thus, when you want your child’s age to be preoccupied with playing and books, that means you also have to be able to compensate by keeping this electoral equipment away from your little one.
A study says that lying is such a common practice in adult life that even you don’t even know you are doing this. All forms of lies, whether small or large, should not be shown, let alone practiced in front of your little one. By seeing these actions from their parents, children will have the assumption that this is something that is justified, because their parents do the same.
When children begin to recognize lies when they are young, the thing that is most feared and worried about is that this can become a habit that is carried over until they are adults. You can imagine, when children like to lie, what will the next generation of our nation be like?
4. Hiding something from your partner
This is one of the many things that we often do without realizing it to our children. When you bring your baby with you to stop by at a restaurant or fast food restaurant, then buy the child everything he wants. You then tell your child not to tell their mother that they are eating at the restaurant because they are afraid of being angry with their wife for spending money at the restaurant.
However, whatever the reason, this is still not allowed to be shown or that it is shown in front of children. This will create new assumptions in children who think that lying from a partner is something that is normal and permissible and this will also affect the partner’s authority.
5. Criticizing the Teacher
Often when we tell stories and reminisce about past times when we were still in school, our memories ring out with teachers who are grumpy or annoying. And this story we will be happy to share with anyone who wants to hear it, including children. However, criticizing and making fun of the teacher you don’t like in front of the kids is something you shouldn’t do. Because this can make children assume that it is permissible to hate and mock someone we don’t like.
Parents are a “source of learning” for their children, they will tend to imitate what their parents do and say. For this reason, it is important for you to know some of the things above in order to maintain an attitude towards children so that they do not imitate.