When our children are still toddlers and are often fussy with everything, we occasionally ask and hope when the child grows up and wants baby us to get big fast. Then time goes by so fast, and before you know it, it seems that the child is no longer a toddler.
Now they have started to enter kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school and suddenly now our little ones who used to be fussy and often whine when we are far away we have grown into teenagers. They are no longer obedient children. They have started to argue, fight, spend more time with their friends than at home with their family, even now when their wishes cannot be fulfilled, the child will rebel and take unexpected actions that sometimes make parents hurt.
Yes, teenagers are like a knife, they have two different and opposite sides. On the one hand, they are cute children who always crave attention, want to be pampered, want to be appreciated and also want to be accepted by their existence.
However, on the other hand, they are also little rebellious figures who like to fight back, at will, are selfish and often like to look for cases by questioning the policies and rules that have been set in the family, so it is not uncommon in the end that the feelings of parents are hurt.
However, actually we too as parents cannot completely blame them. The inducing hormonal fluctuation growing child adolescents play a very important role in every change in behavior in a teenager. In addition, they also feel that they are no longer children, which is why they want to prove it with their behavior and deeds.
However, the extent to which parents can overcome this challenge and how you can “conquer it” will depend on our attitude as parents. So, to find out some of the causes of rebellion that are often carried out by teenagers, let’s consider the following things.
Cause Teenagers Often Rebellious
Want to Show Your True Self
The “adult” assumption in teenagers makes them sometimes feel uncomfortable being constantly underestimated like other children. This is what makes them want to show you that they can do it themselves. In this case, in fact the predicate “revolted” sounded as if it had been overly assigned to the child. It’s not rebellion that they want to show, it’s more about showing who they are and getting them to get your recognition that they are no longer children.
Want to be independent
Sometimes parents always feel worried about all the things their children do and without realizing it, this continues to make you treat children like babies with lots of rules. Meanwhile, at adolescence the child already has his own autonomy.
At this time the child has begun to want to be different, with a different personality. Thus, don’t be surprised if when parents say A, the child actually does B. And if forced, the child will get angry and rebellious is what they will do.
Attitude Overprotective from parents
Parents who are too excessive in caring for and protecting their children or who are often referred to as parents overprotective, tend to have great concern for their children.
They worry that the child will experience unwanted things when they do something. But you know, this kind of attitude will actually make children feel confined and uncomfortable. In the end there will be rebellion in the child.
Effects of the Environment
Children will tend to more easily imitate the behavior of their friends, other people or even what they see on television. When the teenager sees and finds his friends like to give resistance to parental orders or may not obey, then this will be easier for the child to imitate and apply.
Now, if you have this, then how to deal with and overcome the rebellious behavior and actions in a teenager?
How to deal with a rebellious teenager
Recognizing and Accepting Every Stage of Child Development
Parents need to realize that every child is a person who develops according to the conditions and developments of the times. Children who are already teenagers generally do not like to be treated the same when they are young which must be regulated in everything.
Adolescent children generally demand more to be treated like independent adults. But on the other hand, they will not be able to get away from the dependence of their childhood.
Even though teenagers are often hard-pressed to be independent, they are still children who still like to be pampered and cared for. For that, parents must be able to accept every child’s development.
In looking after teenagers, you can’t keep checking the baby’s cellphone and bag or maybe overheard his conversations with his friends. Teach children about the correct laws and regulations.
Of course, this can be given on a religious basis and cultivating noble character in the child. However, you have to instill this from an early age. Because it seems that it will be more difficult to provide this education when the child is a teenager.
Adolescent children are certainly not happy to be treated like little children who when they are working in groups at your friend’s house then keep calling or even picking up and asking them to come home immediately. This of course will make the child more annoyed and in the end rebellious. For that, give trust in you and responsibility.
Establishing the Communication Intense
As parents, sometimes we often forget that we have actually experienced the same times as our children, namely the process of searching for identity.
For some teenagers, this process can take place smoothly and without hindrance. However, for some children, this process can be difficult and steep. For that, communication will bridge all the mistakes and differences experienced by the teenager. For that, make sure if you have intense communication with the children. Communication will help children understand the process they are going through.
Understanding the World of Youth
There is nothing more enjoyable for a teenager than a parent who can understand their world. The openness of parents to adolescents will make it easier for children to find positive things and avoid all the bad possibilities they encounter throughout their teenage lives.
For this reason, there is nothing wrong with being a parent if we can do activities that teenagers like, such as chatting about your teenage life or maybe watching television together.
The lives of children in their teens are still so turbulent. This is a time when they are in the process of finding their identity. For this
reason, anything that prevents teenagers from doing this will make their emotions even more unstable, in the end rebellion will happen. Well, some of the things above are ways parents can deal with their teenage children.