For example like this, on that day, the teacher reported that our child’s attitude was so stubborn, difficult to control and he even injured his friends and made trouble in one class so that the situation at school became noisy and not conducive. However, when you confirm the child, he gives an answer that is different from what the teacher said. On the other hand, your child comes home with a different report delivered with the teacher’s report on the same day, he says that his teacher treated him fiercely, to the point of yelling, pinching and scolding him so much. Or it could be that your little one comes home from school with a “souvenir” in the form of a bad attitude or new words, and when you admonish him, he answers that the teacher taught him at school. And meanwhile, when you confirm the teacher concerned, the teacher says something different from her report about your child.
Well, well, now if you have this, then how do you react? Have you ever thought in your mind that you are confused about which party to take between your child and the teacher at school?
If this really happened, it would be a big dilemma, Mother. On the one hand, you don’t want to be a parent who is suspicious of your baby, especially when the child is still so young. However, on the other hand, you are also confused, how come a teacher is lying with his words? When this happens, it will often make us confused and don’t know what to do. Sometimes this will even become a burden for your mind. In addition, if the new behavior and actions that your little one gets, refers to actions that deviate from the bad morals he gets.
Well, if you have this, what will you do mother? Will you believe your little one’s report because they think their age is so small makes them always tell the truth? Or will you trust the teacher’s report more because you think a teacher will not lie?
Well, here we provide some tips that you can take into consideration when facing problems like this so that you can solve this problem better.
1. Get to know the character of the child at home well
Before rushing to decide what is wrong and what is right, it would be wise for us to know well the character of the child at home. If you see the character of the baby looks good, calm, quiet and so on. So, you can consider your little one’s report to be true.
However, if the characteristics of the child at home often create problems, make trouble, tease other children and so on, then you can determine your next attitude. However, it is also not wise to immediately blame your teachers and think they are lying. For this reason, first identify your character and attitude at home and at school.
2. Ask and Know the Character of Children at School
Connecting the points above, after you fully understand the character of the child at home. So it is also important for you to know their attitude and character in school. Just because children appear to be active at home, often ignorant of their siblings and often make noise, does not mean that they apply the same attitude at school, and vice versa.
sometimes, a child’s attitude will change at school, this is because the child will consider the presence of his friends, other people and even the teacher. In this case, the child may turn out to be shy, or vice versa. For that, identify with certainty the attitude and character of the child.
You can ask this to your friends, or confirm other teachers who are not related to the teacher’s report, such as for example the teacher of another subject who also teaches in the child’s class or maybe the homeroom teacher. After knowing the child’s attitude at school and at home, you will be able to weigh and determine the next attitude.
3. Clarify the chronology
To know clearly the problem between the child and the problem at school, it is very necessary for you to know clearly the chronology of the event. The stories of the children are usually out of order and incomplete. In addition, it is possible that the statement given by the child is only expressed in conditions that are favorable to him. Meanwhile, the story obtained from the teacher is also unacceptable, it may be that the teacher did not see this event from the beginning and only summarized the part he saw.
For example, the teacher only sees the child talking harshly to his friend, and then concludes that the child is rude and so harsh on the other friends. But what might actually happen is that the child does this as a form of self-defense. For that, as an intermediary for this, you can ask his other friends.
4. When the Mistakes Be on the Child
Now, when all the problems are known and you get the conclusion that the fault is with your child, then ask the child to apologize to both his friends, the teacher and even to you. On the other hand, never show your child your feelings of resentment because you are embarrassed by then hitting, scolding and yelling at the baby. Invite children to chat and talk about why the child’s heart did this.
In addition, you can also assess yourself about how the pattern of education you have given your little one. Has it been right for you to educate the baby? From here, you can ask children slowly to be willing to apologize for the mistakes they made. In addition, you can also directly contact the teacher in question and convey your apologies to him for the mistakes made by the baby.
Finding cases where the reports and complaints submitted by the child along with the teacher are out of sync is often a big dilemma for us to believe in one of them. Not infrequently, this too becomes a burden on the mind that makes us dizzy. Well, some of the methods above can be used as a solution to solve your problem with your baby. Hopefully this article is useful for mothers at home in educating and disciplining their beloved baby.