It is very important for parents that all the teachings given to their children will motivate their children naturally and can develop self-confidence and self-respect. The teachings that have been given by both parents will also make the child feel cared for and very loved by both parents. If a pair of children has received enough attention and affection from both parents, parents do not need to worry about their children’s involvement with gangsters, drugs, and other juvenile delinquency. The following information is the key to a successful parenthood.
GEMS (Genuine Encounter Moments)
GEMS is one of the keys to success in being a good parent because the child will get a sense of respect for himself from the quality of time spent by both parents to socialize and communicate directly with the child. It is not the amount of time that the parents spend but the quality of time spent chatting with the child.
Prioritize deeds not ‘words’
A research shows that in a day parents give more than 2000 commands. A good way of ordering is by setting an example of what the child should do. For example, don’t tell your child to tidy up the shoes he is wearing using only words. The mother can tell the child how to make good shoes for the child.
Let the child feel ‘strong’ (powerful)
The key to success in being a good parent is to let children have the power to make decisions, have choices, and so on. A small example is letting her choose a food lunch menu to bring to school or help her mother shop. However, the parents still have full control.
Use the ‘natural consequences’
Natural Consequences here means letting the child suffer the consequences if he does something wrong. example: When a child forgets to bring his lunch, the mother does not need to bring him the lunch. make this experience as a lesson that “remembering” is very important.
Avoiding conflicts with children
Children are emotionally unstable. When your child starts to get angry and scream at you, you can avoid it by moving or getting further away from your child’s position. If your child is still yelling and angry you can say ‘if you still yell mom will get away from you’. This method is quite an effective way to relieve the child’s emotions.
Be a consistent parent
A consistent nature should be exemplified by both parents. Example: when a parent cannot buy candy for their child, the parent does not need to promise the child that the mother or father will buy candy.