Parenting or parenting is the most important part in shaping the behavior and intelligence of a child, which of course is an obligation for every parent wherever he is.
The duty of a parent who has children, is not enough just to be responsible for caring for and raising them. There are so many big responsibilities waiting for you ahead. It is the obligation to educate children and nurture them so that intelligence and character and good behavior grow in them. For that, parenting what you give them will influence the formation of that.
Parenting and parenting are two different things that it is very important for parents to know. Parenting is something that includes the process of looking after and caring for children such as feeding, maintaining their health and protecting the little one from threats and dangers that can take their life. There is also socialization or what we know by teaching behavior in accordance with the rules that apply in society, namely education on how children can interact with their environment in the community and the last is communication. Meanwhile, it is different from parenting which means that it is a certain style or way of parenting that each parent does and is consistently applied to their children. This parenting style certainly has certain goals and objectives, which is not surprising if one parent and another parent has different parenting patterns.
Every parent certainly wants their baby to grow into a person who has good character, has a good spirit of socialization and has brilliant intelligence and achievements. At least here are some common things that parents often hope. Meanwhile, each parent certainly has more specific expectations which they keep in his mind for his children. To achieve these aims and objectives, different parenting styles are applied to children. Suppose that A’s parent has a daughter and he wants his child to become an artist when he grows up, then from an early age the parenting provided includes basic things that can train the ability and self-confidence in his child. While parent B wanted if his son became a doctor plus his talent and brilliant brain abilities, parent B had from an early age directed his child to subjects that led to medicine. (Also read: How to deal with and educate naughty and naughty children to be obedient and according to how to deal with and educate naughty and naughty children to be obedient and obedient)
In general, the parenting styles that are often applied by many parents to their children are divided into 4 types of parenting. Well, for those of you prospective parents, we should first identify what are the 4 types of parenting. This is very important for us to know because this can have a big effect on the emotional, social and intellectual abilities of the baby.
Get to know 4 kinds of parenting styles that are generally applied by parents
1. Authoritative Parenting (Democratic Parenting)
In this parenting style, parents tend to have the highest control in the lives of their children, but that does not mean that parents are absolute controllers and regulators of children’s lives as they wish. In this parenting pattern, the relationship between parents and children is very warm, because in this parenting style parents make rules and be firm with their children but remain flexible, provide support and train children to manage themselves. There is no rule that binds children so absolutely where the words and orders of the parents are deemed the words of Gods that they must not want to do.
Even though there are rules and regulations imposed by parents on children, democratic parents still provide space and freedom for their children to explore and be creative in various matters but still under the supervision of parents. Democratic parenting often involves children and other family members when new provisions are set and when decisions are made regarding family continuity.
2. Parenting Uninvolved (Uninvolved Parenting)
In this parenting style, the relationship between parent and child looks less warm. Parents tend to keep their distance and are less interested and passive about their children’s lives, ignoring their emotions, but still providing for and paying attention to their children’s basic needs. Like food, clothes, uniforms, education, home and so on. In uninvolved parenting, parents tend not to care about the responses and reactions given by children, the most important thing is that they have given and fulfilled their responsibilities and obligations.
For example, when the morning comes and the children are about to go to school the parents will provide school equipment and breakfast at the dining table, then call them to breakfast. However, whether the breakfast is spent or not, it has never been a problem or debate. In this parenting style, children tend to be less attentive, experience a quite difficult and immature self-adjustment.
3. Parenting Authotarian (Authoritarian Parenting)
The opposite of democratic parenting, in this parenting style the parents completely control the child’s life and become the rules and regulations that they make are absolute provisions that must be carried out by the children, if this is violated, the severe punishment and wrath of the parents will be what they will receive. . However, in this parenting style, parents do not maintain warmth and good relationships with their children. In this case, parents are more likely to act as a ruler who demands their children to obey, they tend to be more rigid and full of rules and directions.
In this kind of parenting style, children will usually be mentally anxious, less communicative, difficult to make decisions and lack confidence. However, he can also be very disciplined, responsible for something, independent and can also be very idealistic.
4. Parenting Indulgent (Permissive Parenting)
In Indulgent parenting, the relationship between parents and children is formed so warmly and so closely. Unfortunately, indulgent parenting makes parents less able to control children’s behavior because of the closeness they are like friends and friends. In this parenting style, parents are very involved with the life of their children. Parents who apply this parenting tend to be too soft and not direct their children. He also does not provide clear and consistent rules for his baby, in this case the child tends to be the boss. This parenting style results in children who are spoiled, immature and lacking discipline. However, this child also becomes more confident, assertive and creative.
How to Apply Effective Parenting for Children
Well, from the four types of parenting above, we can actually apply them alternately depending on the conditions and situations faced by the child.
For example, when a child wants to do something dangerous, there is nothing wrong with applying Authotarian parenting, while when the child is making paintings or crafts, we can apply indulgent parenting to make children more creative.
Unfortunately, in practice, many parents have one parenting style and it is too dominant to apply it, so that it makes us mistakenly carry out the parenting style to shape the children’s personality.