Having a baby in the family is certainly the greatest gift that God has given in married life.
There are many parents who are gifted with a quiet, obedient and unpretentious character that makes them grateful to be blessed with good and obedient children. However, there are also many parents who are confused and almost frustrated in facing their recalcitrant and unruly baby.
This often makes parents feel dizzy and it is very difficult to educate them, on the one hand they are children who are so loved by their parents, but on the other hand, the behavior of children who are stubborn and very difficult to manage often makes parents feel embarrassed when their children misbehave and act naughty in front of them. general and even when the child’s behavior has gone out of bounds at the expense of others this of course will make their parents become confused educating and dealing with their behavior like this.
Children with unruly and stubborn characters are indeed an extra task and it is the duty of parents to educate and discipline them. But of course in the process of educating and disciplining this will be a task that can be said to be tricky to do, because if we see many parents educating and dealing with naughty children doing the wrong and wrong way by educating their children too much, especially coupled with elements of violence that physically hurt children.
The way to educate each parent is different, however, all acts of violence that can hurt children both physically and mentally are not justified as good actions in educating and disciplining naughty and naughty children, because this will put the child’s growth and development at risk and mental development in society when he grows up.
There are several steps and stages that parents need to take in dealing with and overcoming children’s delinquency so that this behavior can be suppressed and as much as possible eliminated in children. Well, here we will explore more deeply how to deal with children who are stubborn and difficult to manage gradually by recognizing what causes delinquency in children and how to deal with and overcome them.
Know the Causes of Children Being Stubborn
Parenting Patterns as Infants
This behavior generally occurs when the child is a baby until they are under five years of age where you have made it a habit to obey all of your child’s wishes and commitments. It doesn’t matter if they want to harm you or make it difficult for you to grant that wish. This kind of thing is generally influenced by the factor of parents’ reluctance when they see their children cry or whine when they want something so they prefer to grant their children’s wishes easily.
But you know, by treating you like that, this indirectly makes you practice improper parenting where when the children grow up the same behavior they will do to you, so that when they want something and their parents can’t grant it then with easy they will provide threats and terror that will make you worry and immediately grant his wish. This is what makes children naughty and arbitrary towards their parents, especially when they have the desire.
When you find a naughty child whose age is getting bigger like the current school age and you feel the same thing you did to children when they were little, then don’t be surprised if the same thing happens to your child. But to overcome this, then try to slowly change your attitude towards children and try to be firm, but that doesn’t mean you have to be hard on them.
Exposing Violence in Front of Children
Having differences of opinion and differences with your partner often makes us annoyed and can’t help but get angry, but this doesn’t mean you can be free to show fights in front of the children. Remember, the first lesson that children will absorb is what they get from their immediate environment. If you often show disputes with children, then don’t be surprised if the mental and character of children tend to be more violent and difficult to control.
The Attitude of Parents Who Never Reprimand and Even Laugh When Children Talk Dirty
When children do things they shouldn’t do or say dirty things or words and you then ignore them or even laugh at them instead of reprimanding and reminding them is one of the factors that children become naughty. When children talk dirty or do things that are not praiseworthy and you laugh at them instead of advising them, this will make children assume that what they are doing is the right thing. For that, try to control your children and try to provide them with a comfortable environment with good influence.
Well, some of the aspects above are just a handful of examples of the sources and causes of delinquency growing and appearing in children which make them mentally formed into naughty children and difficult to control by their parents. After listening to some of the causes above, we also see how to deal with children who are stubborn and unruly.
Good Parenting for Facing and Coping with Children who are Stubborn and Difficult to Manage
1. Apply Firm Provisions to Limit Children’s Behavior
Children who are naughty and very difficult to control generally behave and act as they want and think their parents are unable to face their delinquency. However, controlling and educating them is the responsibility of us parents, let alone having good, obedient and high-achieving children at school will certainly be a matter of pride, not only for parents but also for the surrounding environment. For this reason, the first step in dealing with stubborn and unruly children is to implement strict provisions to limit children’s behavior at home, school or their environment. In addition, if a child violates the provisions you set, do not hesitate to impose strict educational sanctions for them, such as for example when you say dirty or fight in their environment, you will punish the child by not letting them play all day.
2. Give Them Responsible For Their Age
The next step for dealing with wayward children is to give them age-appropriate responsibilities. For example, give children the responsibility to care for and care for their own belongings, especially their favorite items. For example, when children play with their barbie equipment or robotic toys, ask the child to clean up the toys they took out if they are not tidied up then give them the understanding that they will lose their favorite items or even the items can be lost. In this way the child will inevitably start slowly taking care of these things and indirectly an obedient soul will begin to emerge in him.
3. Spend Time Together with Children
Another reason a child’s stubborn and unruly character can arise or occur in the context of the child trying to
get your attention because they want to be noticed. So if this happens, maybe your time together with them is not quality. For that, as a good parent try to spend your time with them.
The world of children is a world of play, so there is nothing wrong with taking one time a week to spend time playing with children. No need to go far to visit tourist attractions to make children happy by playing and accompanying children to play with their favorite toys will make them feel cared for and heard.
Educating stubborn and unruly children to be obedient is not an easy matter. However, whatever the method, all forms of violence, both physical and mental, are not justified and are not a good solution in disciplining children. Hopefully the above parenting tips can be useful and help mothers to educate their beloved children.