As parents, of course we want to instill good things in our children so that they have good and strong character.
Character itself is not something that is inherited and inherited, but the character itself is instilled, built and formed and then developed consciously by the human being himself. Therefore in the end we do not have complete control over what kind of character we have. Departing from this, if we look closely at character education, it should be implemented from an early age in various aspects of our lives, especially children who are experiencing development.
Previously, you may have heard about the tabula rasa theory which regards children as a blank paper that is ready to be painted and filled with various things. Therefore, the best opportunity for those of you parents who want to instill good character and habits is when they are still young and easy to absorb and learn to behave as shown and taught by parents.
Talking about character and habits, there is one common habit that may sometimes be ignored by many parents, namely the habits of children when eating. In fact, the eating rules themselves are quite simple, that is, they only sit orderly at the dining table or in certain places that have been specially prepared for eating. Most parents are still not aware of it and apply it to their children. Most of them still allow their children to eat while doing other things like playing and watching television, so they look less orderly.
Benefits of Eating Together at the Dining Table
Starting from this, you should be more sensitive if in fact simple activities such as eating together regularly at the dining table actually have a lot of benefits for you, and become a great place for you to instill good character for your children. More about this, here are the benefits you can get from eating together at the dining table that you can get.
1. Learn To Focus
By getting used to eating at the dinner table regularly with other family members, then you have taught your child to learn to focus more on one thing. Usually most children will do other things such as playing gadgets or while playing and watching television. That way your child gets used to being able to finish one by one what he is doing well and not messy, after all at the study table he can also learn and get new things from sharing that occurs between children and parents during joint activities at the dining table. .
2. Fostering closeness between family members
Maybe sometimes we forget to build closeness and intimacy between family members because they feel close and don’t need a special approach, even though as a good parent you should be a place for them to tell stories about what children are experiencing and being liked you, and parents can also tell about the activities they do, so that all members know and know well what activities other family members are doing. Of course, closeness and closeness between individuals in the family will be built and formed by themselves without being forced. Apart from this, according to a study, eating together becomes an effective moment to add new vocabulary for your child up to 1000 new words. This is certainly very effective, even compared to reading books, where only about 143 new words can be absorbed by your child.
3. Practicing Discipline Children
One of the good characteristics that every parent wants to instill in their child is to be disciplined and responsible for something. Eating together in an orderly manner at the dining table is a very appropriate exercise for your child to be a disciplined person and respect time. By setting meal times with your child, you will get used to trying to be on time to do eating activities. Thus, at least your child can bring this good habit into various things or other areas of his life.
4. Reduce Clutter and Train Your Child’s Modesty
It is common for young children themselves to be very happy running around without paying attention to their surroundings, so there is often chaos. This also happens when you are seducing your child to eat, usually it is quite difficult to direct your child to eat in an orderly manner and he chooses to run around or eat in another room, so that accidentally spilled food stains contaminate various objects and other items. in your house. Therefore, by getting used to eating activities, then at least you can reduce the mess a little because your child can focus on eating at the dining table without having to run around. Regular eating at the dining table with family can also be a direct training ground for your child to be a polite person, because there are good manners such as saying thank you, and seeing older people as people who deserve respect.
5. Become a Learning Event
Whether you realize it or not, eating together can be the right place for you to teach new things to your children. In this activity, you can explain to your child what you and your family have tasted, from differentiating the types of vegetables to the ingredients and goodness of the dishes you taste with your family. At the dining table you can even learn from various things that are shared by your children. You can get knowledge that you may never have thought before. So that in this joint meal activity all family members can learn from various stories that occur during a meal together or from stories that each family member has while doing activities outside his family, such as at school, friendships or offices.
That is the activity of eating together that you and your family can do. Therefore, for those of you who want to start trying eating activities with family members at the dining table you should immediately start and do this because there are so many benefits for you and even greater for your children. This activity, which actually looks simple, can actually be a very good and appropriate event for you to instill various values and good character for your child without seeming to be pushy and patronizing. This method is also very flexible for those of you who want to build a greater closeness with your children.