We and all parents certainly know very well that a person’s personality will determine his attitudes and actions, as well as what happens to children.
This is why shy people talk less when they meet new people. This is also what makes confident people have no problems expressing themselves and getting along easily with their environment.
For this reason, it is very important for all parents in educate and foster quality character in children so that they grow into someone who has a good personality and commendable behavior, both towards their environment and to themselves.
This way, of course, not only makes children easily accepted by friends and society, but also makes it easy for them to make connections with their new environment. In addition, of course all parents long to have children like that, the reason is not only the image of the child who will be good in society but also a good judgment will also involve us, parents who are considered successful and lucky to have good children and have good behavior.
On the other hand, a child who does not have a good personality and behaves recklessly will also have a negative impact on himself and society’s judgment on us. You certainly don’t want if every time you attend a parent meeting, your child’s name is often referred to as the troublemaker, right? For this reason, educating and building a good personality is very important to be taught to children from an early age.
Educating and shaping the child’s personality will certainly be a long and tiring journey for mothers and fathers, but it is an obligation that must always be fulfilled. There will be many obstacles and trials that mothers may face, one of which comes a lot from the child himself and from his environment. Especially when the children have started to grow up and have their own opinions. The difficulty in directing the child to the way the mother wants is the thing that is most often faced. But with patience and painstaking will make them slowly understand and accept the advice and education given. Well, to help mothers educate children and cultivate a good personality in children so that they can behave in a commendable environment, then consider the following points.
1. Cultivate Religious Values When They Are Young
That is the importance of instilling religious values in children, so that this needs to be given since the child is still an early age. Even the cultivation of these values must be done since the child is a baby even when they are still in the womb. Children must be taught to know their God through some religious activities carried out by both parents at home.
Provide children with religious knowledge and understanding from an early age, even when they are just born. If children are accustomed to carrying out their activities according to their religious values, then parents will be able to find it easy to educate them. This is because the child already has a good basic foundation with the values of faith from within him. With a good religious basis, children will always do positive things and behave in a commendable manner without harming others.
2. Understand Children’s Feelings Well
Before directing children more specifically and giving prohibitions and advice about everything that happens in their life, it is very important to understand and touch children’s feelings properly. When we understand their feelings, parents will find it easier to organize and direct their children. In this case parents must be able to be empathetic and sympathetic to their children. Which this can be done by understanding the signals or signs conveyed by the child.
For example, when after school, the children come home with sullen or even sad faces. As parents, it is not appropriate if we give workloads or ask children to do their other study obligations. It would be better if we approached them after they changed clothes, make communication soft and ask them why they are frowning.
Or ask how they are at school, make them share their sadness and frustration that makes them irritated and frown. This way the children will feel valued and given attention. When children are given sympathy and empathy, it will be more difficult for them to disobey and reject you, this way you will be easier to educate and direct them.
3. Applying Discipline to Children
Accustoming discipline to children is very important which this also needs to be applied to them when they are young. Good disciplinary behavior within the family, community and school environment.
The important thing that can be done to apply discipline to children is to take an approach that is in accordance with the child’s development, the level of maturity and attitudes between teachers and their parents in educating them. With the growing attitude of discipline in children, it will make them able to appreciate time and learn to manage time into useful things which of course will carry over to adult children someday.
4. Give Time For Children
Lack of character education that grows in children may be influenced by parental factors. As is well known, the role of parents is as a caregiver and educator who will determine the behavior and personality of a child. Parents’ jobs and busy work at work make them unable to spare and take the time to be able to educate their children properly.
For this reason, no matter how busy your father and mother are, you should take the time and take the time to monitor and know the children’s development. Like knowing how their social environment is, how they behave outside and knowing who their children’s friends are. Moreover, it would be better if you were able to spend quality time with your children such as playing with them, and giving them attention. This way the children will feel happy and make them appreciate you.
5. Be a Good Example
Cultivating good personality and behavior in children is not only limited to theory and all advice. One of the most effective education given to children is what they experience and see clearly. So when you expect your children to be good personalities with praiseworthy behavior, then you should be able to have the same thing and apply it in everyday life.
How can a child be good and behave praiseworthy if their parents are not able to be a good example and role model. For this reason, set a good example for the children, this way slowly but surely they will start to imitate and do the good things that you do. So you don’t have to bother always teaching children and dictating them to be the child you expect every time.
Children who have good personalities will automatically be able to maintain their actions and deeds so that they are always good and praiseworthy. Thus, character education and good personality are important things that must be taught to them from an early age.