In every activity, including in a competition, winning is something to be proud of, but losing is a process that you must support so that your child does not become a child who lacks confidence, doesn’t want to try again, is pessimistic or gives up. Therefore this article will help you to teach your child to accept defeat. These are tips to teach children to accept defeat.
From an early age, your child must accept the fact that the concept of losing does not mean being the worst but understands that losing is a learning process, even though it sounds trivial, but often your emotions are involved in the child’s defeat, which makes your child less confident.
1. Understanding Defeat
Losing does not mean not winning. This understanding must be given to your child. You can start by explaining that the end result of the competition doesn’t mean not being a champion but rather to stay excited, it’s just a game and there’s a long way to go. Parents should understand that competition is not about the end result, so you will teach your child to appreciate the effort to excel.
2. Overflowing with feelings
You can teach your child to express defeat. Usually your child will cry, hit, kick and even scream. Although it is difficult to maintain feelings when losing, but by accompanying to vent the feelings of defeat that is being experienced, you will accompany and love him will make him feel confident again.
3. Acknowledging shortcomings
Acknowledging your shortcomings does not mean that your child is not good but teaches him to be humble, respect others and accept defeat as a learning process. Thus there is nothing wrong with a flaw so you can make sure your child can recognize himself with his shortcomings.
4. Appreciate children’s hard work
The atmosphere from the surrounding environment will help in accepting the defeat so that the role of the parents in accepting the defeat of the child. Overcoming defeat that losing does not mean not winning but a process of hard work and effort, when children begin to be appreciated the results will help in all achievements to make him confident.
5. Focus on process
Giving motivation when your child is trying hard to win the championship is one of the best ways, but if you are too focused on the end result, namely winning or losing, your child will be burdened. So teach your child to appreciate a process not the end result, so he will more easily accept defeat.
Thus the parenting style of parents will help foster self-confidence, not easily give up and accept the shortcomings in the child so that when participating in competitions and competitions they do not overwhelm the child.