Having children who are often threatening will certainly frustrate and annoy their parents, so if you have a threatening child, you should be careful. Don’t let this behavior get carried away until they are adults. Because when they grow up, it could be that not only you are the target of their threats, they may also threaten those around them.
The child’s ability to threaten other people usually begins when the child is 5 to 8 years old. Because at this age, children already have cognitive abilities that are more mature than before. In addition, they also tend to be more critical and have sharper analytical skills.
In general, the threats that children pose to their parents and other people come from their memories. This is what then will make the child threaten someone. For example, when the child is sick and the parents do not allow him to play with his friends outside. This is what will then make the child threaten his parents to follow his wishes. However, in severe conditions, the threat is made by the child to use a method that can injure him.
If you find your child often makes threats like this, here are some ways to deal with them.
1. Express Feelings
If your child threatens to do something dangerous, try to calm the child by hugging and rubbing the head. This is believed to reduce the level of aggressiveness of children. If there are feelings of sadness, express it with feelings even though you cry. Give an insight to the child that this is done solely for his good.
2. Take Dangerous Objects
If the severity of the threat given by your little one has far exceeded the limit such as injuring himself using a dangerous object. So you should immediately take these objects before being used to injure themselves or keep your little one’s reach from dangerous objects that he could potentially use to threaten. But of course this is done after you calm the child’s emotions.
3. When Your Little One Threatens
If you don’t comply with your little one’s requests and your little one has made threats, then things you can do include:
- Give them attention
- When children talk, it’s good to listen first. Not only listening, but try to listen to what you want.
- Teach children to deal with their emotions. Give children therapy to control impulsivity, that is, if they want their wishes to be realized immediately, their needs must be postponed.
- Exercise your child’s stress. If your little one can do a good thing then you can give them credit. Giving appreciation to your little one doesn’t just have to be in the form of goods, you can also give it with a smile of praise and so on.
Threatening behavior in children is certainly not good behavior, because not only will it harm others, the same impact can also befall the child and make the child have no friends. For this reason, early treatment will help children get rid of their less commendable threatening attitude.