Others are forced to live alone without being accompanied by a partner against the backdrop of the fate of death. Husbands or wives who precede to the Almighty, so they are forced to continue living alone together with their children without an accompanying partner. Of course, this condition will be hard for anyone to feel, especially when faced with the reality of having to raise and educate children who are the fruit of love towards adulthood. This is certainly not an ideal condition, but nevertheless it must be faced and addressed with awareness, patience and a sense of full responsibility. This must not lead to weakness and despair in filling new pages in solitude.
Being a single parent or what is known as a single parent is not easy considering you have to do everything yourself. Not only dealing with your own emotional problems, but also you are faced with life and emotional turbulence of children.
Every parent may have a different parenting style, there is not even a book that explains in detail how good parenting for children, especially if you are a single parent. However, this doesn’t necessarily make you despair, you can listen to input or listen to other single parent stories that you can motivate to be more patient.
The following are certain things that single parents often do.
Being a single parent is not easy, however, you must accept it gracefully. Adjusting to new conditions are steps you can take. Both adults and children should be able to do better when single parents are seen as a viable option rather than a pathological situation. Start being positive and focus on the benefits of single parents. For example, by reducing conflict tension at home. This is done by appreciating every new autonomy that is created at home so that every individual at home will feel valued and more meaningful.
2. Never Try And Be Sturdy Clean Be A Children’s Best Friend
Many people think that it would be better if the child’s best friend was their mother, but did you know that inviting children to be their mother’s best friend will only result in children who are less developed especially in their social life.
When the child finds his best friend outside and takes your position as a place to vent, maybe you will feel sad, but if you are a great mother, then no one else can take that position. Throw away all the thoughts and observations of making yourself a child’s best friend, instead focus on raising children so that they stay on the right track.
3. Make Your Child Respect You
Being a mother and father in a family is not an easy matter, especially in terms of educating and raising children. Many single parents have difficulty educating their children, both in terms of courtesy and discipline.
This is a challenge that may be quite difficult for you, but slowly giving them the understanding that you have to work hard alone for them is something you should be able to convey gently from heart to heart. By doing so, they will be able to respect and appreciate all the effort and hard work you have put in for them.
4. Involve Family and Friends in the Child’s Life
Even though the parents are not complete, your child still has family and friends for life. They are important people who are there for the child when they need help or need a friend. It is the child’s loneliness that sometimes makes them turn wild or arrogant. For this reason, assure children that even in such conditions, the love they will get will still be the same.
Being a single parent is not a desire, but has become a way of life. Educating and raising you in the right way will make it better even if raised by a single parent.