However, everything changes as the child gets older. Starting from the age of 2 to 4 years, children begin to understand and have the ability to think and have their own autonomy. At this age, the child begins to show what he likes and dislikes. Not infrequently, when parents give instruction or a prohibition on the desire of your little one that leads to something dangerous, they will go berserk, get angry and their tantrum could explode instantly.
Not a few, too, parents who complained about how aggressive their children were. The behavior shown by children was aggressive, generally more extreme than that of children in general. An aggressive child will tend to grab, bite, scream and even kick. Well, if you have this, parents will certainly be dizzy and frustrated with their children.
In children 2 to 4 years of age, this aggression generally occurs. And even worse, they often show this aggressive attitude in children 1 or 2 years of age under them.
Children with this behavior are often considered naughty, cruel and even get the title of uneducated children. This is what in turn often makes parents feel awkward and embarrassed at other parents. Aggressiveness in children is not something that can be ignored. It is necessary to find a solution immediately so that it does not keep happening. Because if it is allowed, children like this will be able to grow up to be individuals who are unable to control their emotions, behave arbitrarily, abuse, arrogantly and even underestimate others. This attitude will certainly carry over until they grow up to be adults.
In children aged 5 and 6 at school age, children generally have a poor understanding of social acceptance and morality. At this age, children’s egos are still very high and they do not have the ability to interpret meanings and how to control their emotions. Thus, the child will tend to behave aggressively and this happens outside of his consciousness. That is, the emotions of the child that suddenly explode will they channel into random actions, they are not aware that it will hurt their friends, hurt the teacher or even hurt your parents.
For that, it is very important for parents to be able to change and discipline the children as early as possible so that this behavior can be suppressed by them. However, of course this will not be done easily and quickly. It takes extra patience and this will not be realized in one day.
So, here are some things you can do to deal with aggressive children, which of course is subjective. It depends on how the parents approach and how accepting the child is. However, it doesn’t hurt to experiment.
1. Find Out Why
Every problem that can trigger anger, of course, always has a cause. There is a saying that there will be no smoke if there is no fire, so it is with children. As with adults, children also have times or times when they don’t like being bullied, teased or meddled with by other people.
Now, when this happens and the cause arises with them being harassed by other people, then the child’s anger will arise and aggressive behavior in the child will appear. Or it could be, the reason is caused when children feel so excited and they lose control or lack of control over behavior in the child.
2. Get to know the temperament of your children
Everyone is born with a unique temperament or personality. From one child to another, of course it is different. Thus, when the neighbor’s child is marked it will only give a simple annoyance response, while your child will immediately throw tantrums and cry and give meaningful attacks, this is what indicates that everyone’s temperament is different.
So from here, parents need to know clearly the temperament of their children, especially aggressive children. Knowing this will make it easier for you to better cope with and control your child’s emotions and feelings.
3. Avoid giving physical punishment
Dealing with aggressive children with behavior that is considered “cruel”, such as hitting, giving sudden attacks or even hurting, indeed often makes us annoyed and often anger is often tested here.
However, as wise parents, we are required to be more patient and careful in our actions. Do not let your behavior that is easy to give physical punishment to children, they can imitate which will make the behavior worse. When you often give physical punishment such as jewing, hitting, pinching and so on, it will be easier for children to imitate physical punishment on other people.
4. Give appreciation when the child can control his emotions
Sometimes it takes a “motivation” or reason for children to do what their parents tell them to do, including being kind. Maybe some of you think that doing this is a form of “bribing” to children. However, you shouldn’t think that way. In addition, giving rewards here doesn’t mean you give children luxury items in exchange for their behavior.
The form of the award given can vary, the simplest form of this award can be in the tones of praise, more affection and so on.
5. Consult immediately
If you feel you have done everything you can to be able to reduce the baby’s attitude from his aggressiveness, but his attitude still cannot change. So, you should bring your little one and consult the doctor’s condition.
This is of course so that parents can get better and better solutions to overcome the baby’s attitude. Coping early will certainly be better for your baby before this attitude creeps more severely and becomes embedded as a habit.
Dealing with aggressive children is often confusing and often frustrating for parents. Therefore, the above points are expected to be able to help mothers in dealing with their babies who have aggressive behavior.