However, not all children are easy or happy to share, there are still many children who have difficulty sharing with their friends. For example, let alone sharing their food, even a toy swing as if no other child should touch it. Of course this can be an obstacle to the child’s social life. How war parents respond to things like that, here are the tips:
Talk To Your Children
Children who have entered kindergarten are actually enough to be able to talk to. So invite your child to talk about problems at school and provide solutions that can be mutually agreed upon. Of course, the speaking style must be adjusted according to the child’s age. Give a picture to the child that sharing can make it easier for him to have many friends, and also give an idea how beautiful it would be if he had many friends.
Don’t Punish Children Because He’s Stingy
Punishment will actually trigger child hatred instead of making children generous. It is advisable to give positive encouragement rather than just reprimand or punishment. Continue to give positive encouragement so that the child wants to share, and when he shares, don’t forget to give him praise.
Appreciate his “Valuables”
If your child feels that his clothes, books or toys are his “valuables,” try to respect that. Try to ask permission first when you are going to borrow his book or play, and give him the option of no if he doesn’t want to allow it. Tell this also to relatives, helpers, friends or teachers to do the same with his “valuables” and if necessary also say that we who borrow “valuables” will take care of it properly. This is a good stimulus so that children have more confidence in sharing with others.
Give an Example
The best way to teach children to be more generous is by example. So don’t hesitate to share ice cream with him, offer to help him when he has trouble wearing shoes, etc. So, sharing is visible to the child from the things parents do to him, so he feels really good about sharing ice cream with his mother, how easy it is to use shoes after being helped by his mother etc. So, when you share with your little one, make sure he feels the benefits of sharing it himself, but not spoiling your little one.
Also Teach Which Is Not Allowed To Share
After your child starts to make progress regarding sharing, don’t forget to teach what things you shouldn’t share with his friends, it is also important to teach what is allowed and what is not. Give reasons why toothbrushes should not be shared, etc.