Well, if you have this, of course we will be annoyed and annoyed. How can they be at their age who are still so small, these words they throw at their parents easily. It’s still fortunate if they just made a mistake and only then. So what if they say the same thing to other people, such as your father or grandparents when visiting. Of course, this will of course embarrass you, not to mention the assessment of your husband’s parents who are considered incompetent educate children would be a scary and embarrassing thing to deal with.
The behavior of children who dare to speak harsh words can be obtained as a form of imitation of their environment. Imitation or imitation is a common thing that happens to children, especially toddlers. Imitation is also an important part of learning for children, especially for children aged 2 to 3 years. On the other hand, when you find your toddler does not have the ability to imitate, parents must be “aware” that something is happening with their development.
However, the problem here is, if the things that are imitated by the child are positive and good things then it will not be a problem. It’s just that, when our toddlers imitate bad things, even if they apply it in the wrong place, then this is a big problem.
Please note, it is not only the community that affects children. Their upbringing and family environment also determine the formation of character in them. Parents are the closest “learning resources” to children. So that as parents, everything we do must be done carefully with full attention. Do not let bad behavior in parents be imitated and instilled in children so that it becomes their bad habit.
Especially for toddlers and toddlers who talk harshly or say curses, it is certain that they are “applying” what they get from their environment. And it is also clear that they do not understand what they are saying, because indeed this is done as an application of what they imitate in their environment which according to him is “interesting” when spoken. However, it is not wise for parents to punish children when they behave in this way. Because when parents overreact, this will only trigger them to repeat the harsh words. So how to prevent toddler and toddlers so they don’t speak harshly? We see the solution below.
1. Don’t Allow Child Bad Behavior to Increase
When you hear your child for the first time say harsh words, you should not be surprised by showing an exaggerated reaction, let alone gaping with a look of surprise. This can be considered an interesting thing when you see your expression so that in the end it will become a funny joke for the child. However, it is also not wise to immediately scold children and give punishment suddenly. When the child says harsh words, take tough action on them and don’t let this become a bad habit that will instill in them. If children still do the same thing even when you give them a warning, then try everything that will make them feel deterred and not repeat it or even make this bad habit increase.
2. Don’t Make a Kidding
When you play with children and find them upset, then automatically your frustration is expressed through harsh words, often funny expressions are painted which often make us want to laugh. However, this was not something that could be joked around. When children say harsh words, whatever it is even when you are joking and playing with them, do not tolerate that you can accept bad words. Instead, take firm action and show the child that this is something you do not like and it is not commendable to do this. In this way, they will understand the consequences of the bad deeds they have done and hope that they will not repeat them.
3. Don’t Allow Children to Deal with Abusive and Disrespectful Children
Even though they are still in the stages of playing and making friends, that doesn’t mean parents are not allowed to filter and select environments for their children. It is very important to filter the child’s environment, considering that the environment is one of the biggest sources that will determine a child’s personality and character. For this reason, when you find children playing with children who tend to be rude and even act politely to others, then don’t hesitate to keep children away from such an environment. Because this is done solely for their good and welfare.
4. Don’t try to rebuke all the bad things of the child at once
When you get annoyed when you find your child talking harshly and making dirty words, then rebuke them for the mistakes they did just then. Sometimes, because of annoyance we will scold the children and often offend them with some of the bad things and mistakes they have done in the past. Believe me, not solving the problem, this will actually make the child’s anger rise and turn to attack us with harsh words and inappropriate treatment.
When you are upset, it’s best to control your emotions and be as quiet as possible. In addition, the role of parents is not to blame, but to guide and educate you. Instead of scolding them, you should show them your compassion and love for them by advising them that it is not okay to do it.
Children who often say harsh words will indeed irritate us. Especially when they do the same thing to other people who are older in their environment. Of course this will embarrass us to death. Well, the method above is expected to be able to help mothers in preventing their toddlers and toddlers from worsening their attitude and behavior in speaking harshly. Hopefully these tips can be useful and help mothers at home in disciplining their beloved children.