Being blessed with children who are good, obedient and have good ethics is certainly an immeasurable gift and makes all parents in the world feel fortunate to have such a child.
It’s just that, along with the development of the era, in this modern era it seems increasingly difficult to develop good character and noble character in children, especially coupled with the presence of increasingly sophisticated technology which makes the world of children’s socialization only limited to gadgets that are it has. This, of course, reduces the child’s sense of concern for others and their environment and reduces respect for others. So that good manners and ethics when the children are in their environment they cannot show them well.
Well, if this happens, of course the parents will be hit by the stone. The behavior of children who are unable to show good manners and ethics in their environment will make other people’s judgments fall on us as parents who are considered failures. educate children, especially giving them a moral lesson.
As we know, ethical and moral lessons are the most important things that should be instilled in children since they were young. As good parents, it is not appropriate if we delegate ethical and moral lessons to children at school, this education needs to be helped and get support from the environment, especially the family. Because most of the children’s time is spent in the family.
Courtesy in ethics is a commendable act, when this is formed in the child, it is certain that our child will be liked by many people and get good praise about himself and your upbringing in educating them. But unfortunately this is not formed instantly and is not congenital or influenced by genetic factors. Polite manners in ethics are formed because of a habit that is applied continuously for a long time, so that this grows in the child into a character and character that he carries until he grows up. Now, to help mothers at home educate and nurture their children to grow up to be ethical and moral persons, it is very important to teach them some of these things.
Teach Ethical Lessons From Small Things
Like other lessons, teaching good ethics to children cannot be given insistently and expecting your child to have good ethics in a fast time as you expect. Remember that ethics lessons are something that not only can be remembered by children, but are expected to be able to be practiced properly so that it becomes a habit that they will continue to apply in their lives until they grow up. For that, instilling education and ethics lessons in children must be accompanied by patience and compassion. Start teaching children from small things such as the following things.
Get used to children to always apologize
Apologizing and giving forgiveness to other people will not make our children become mentally weak, on the contrary, saying sorry will teach them the courage and courage to admit the mistakes they made. Teach them responsibility and consequence with their actions. In this way the child will feel that what he is doing is something that is not praiseworthy and will make other people miserable. In this way, before children act they will rethink whether the things they do can hurt other people or not. In addition, apologizing is not only taught when children make mistakes, but teaches them to say the word sorry when they ask for help from others.
Teach Children To Say Thanks
An expression of gratitude is often underestimated, but did you know that this simple word has a very deep meaning. An expression of gratitude is a great expression for something we get, as well as when we get help from other people. It is also important to teach children to foster ethics in themselves.
Teach Children To Say Hello
By teaching children to get used to greeting other people not only fosters concern for others within themselves, but also fosters a friendly attitude so that children can easily socialize with friends and their environment.
Teach Children to Respect the Privacy of Others
If you often give opportunities to children when they make mistakes because they think the children are young, then this is wrong. It is not forbidden for children to make mistakes, but it is the responsibility and obligation of parents to remind and educate children that what they are doing is not a good thing and should not be done. One example of educating children to have good ethics is by teaching children to respect the privacy of other people, for example teaching children to always knock on the door when they are about to enter other people’s homes or rooms.
The Role of Parents to Be Role Model
The formation of ethical behavior and character of courtesy in children is generally so influenced by their own environmental factors. Especially if we remember that the child’s closest environment is his own family, children tend to imitate what he sees and this is what happens with our children, so don’t be surprised when the child’s behavior looks not much different from the behavior of his parents. To overcome this, of course as good parents, we need to show good manners and behavior in front of the children. In this way, the child will automatically be able to imitate and adopt this behavior.
Give Children Polite Correction
When children make mistakes that might irritate and irritate you with their actions, then you shouldn’t scream and say dirty words. Keep your intonation and speech, make eye contact and put your hand on his shoulder, convey all your advice well, give them the understanding not to repeat the mistake because it is an act that is not commendable. The politeness and ethics that you show to children and the way you control your emotions will make them slowly understand and not repeat their mistakes.
Don’t Make Your Advice a Joke
Disrespectful attitudes or actions that are not praiseworthy are not something to be laughed at and joked with. When your children make mistakes and you give them advice it is certainly the right thing. But stick with your advice and be consistent. Do not let another time when children make mistakes, this is made a joke by laughing at the children when they say dirty or do something that is not praiseworthy. Your inconsistency in educating children will be assumed by them as an act of confusion and make them think their mistakes are good in your eyes because you often laugh.
Those are some important things that need to be instilled in children when you educate children so that they have good ethics.