When a child complains, it is better if parents do not immediately respond to the child’s complaint with emotional shock and anger at the child’s complaint. However, the effort parents should make is to be more patient and spend time using parenting situations as a learning effort for the child. For example, when a child quarrels with a friend and he immediately complains to his father and mother. So it is better if the father and mother do not rush to take action to scold the child’s friend. But the real step that should be taken is to get the child back together with his friends and go back to playing.
Generally there are several things that make children often complain about everything to their parents, including children who are trying to find their moral direction and trying to understand how their behavior and that of others are related. In addition, this action might be done as a means to grab the attention of parents or adults or even from the person complaining about. Facing a child who likes to complain is certainly not an easy matter.
Some of the ways below will help ease your burden in dealing with it:
1. Approach and Communicate
One way to deal with and respond to children who like to complain is to approach and communicate. Invite them to tell stories, when the child’s mental atmosphere has calmed down. Also give him the understanding that complaining is not a laudable attitude and that he could lose many friends because of that attitude. Mothers and fathers will really appreciate and be proud if their children tell of events that can injure or endanger themselves and their friends.
2. Interrupting the child
When you find your child arguing with friends, siblings or other people, it is better to observe if you feel that your child cannot solve it by yourself then the thing parents must do is to break up and ask the child to forgive each other.
3. Not Justifying Children’s Behavior
When a child complains about something or something that has been done by his friend or relative to you, then the wise attitude of the parents is not justifying the behavior. In this case parents must be able to be neutral and not taking sides with one. Conversely, give understanding to children to make up with their friends because after all they are friends, a friend must be able to forgive and help each other when their friends are in trouble, not hostile or mock each other.
Those are some tips for dealing with and responding to children who like to complain. At a young age, children generally still do not understand and cannot distinguish between what is good and what is wrong, including the act of complaining. Thus it is time for you to educate and guide children so that things like this they should not do.