Having a baby in the middle of the family is certainly the greatest gift that makes happiness in the family feel so complete and perfect.
Not a few prospective parents tend to prefer to yearn for the gender of their children, which is of course motivated for different reasons. However, both men and women are no different, they are the greatest gift that God has given in married life, especially if we compare them to less fortunate couples who are difficult to be blessed with offspring.
There are many opinions that say that raising children is a tricky activity, especially for girls. Every parent who is blessed with a child naturally wants his child to grow up to be a good person, with good character and useful for his environment, including with his daughter. It’s just that, in girls there are so many important educators who must always be grown on oneself they. Every parent who has a daughter would want the daughter they love to grow up to be a gentle, kind but also strong and independent woman. Different from the way of educating boys, several other considerations such as sensitivity and emotional tendencies in girls make parents demand extra and more careful in educating them.
Well, of course the obligation to educate children is what not only requires support from mothers but also the role of the father, which is expected to be involved. This is because the lessons that will be easily absorbed by children are the lessons they witness directly, namely they are obtained from their environment, including their family environment. For that, both mother and father, all of you are expected to be able to maintain and set a good example in order to foster a positive attitude in girls in order to educate them to become better people when they grow up. Well, some of the points below are also very important to give to children to help educate them to be gentle, strong and independent.
Pay attention to the way girls look
There are many saying that a woman’s thinking is much more complex than a man’s. You may experience this together with your partner when you are not married to your partner, often you are confused and dizzy to conquer a woman’s heart. And this is what happened to your daughter. To overcome this, consider the perspective of girls.
A woman generally sees the world as a “relationship”, they tend to create equal reciprocity and interdependence (take and give). For that, you can’t keep educating and directing your daughter to be who you want to be by constantly showering her with rules without giving them the right and space for them to be who they are.
In addition, generally girls’ self-esteem will increase if they know that they are part of a relationship. For that, be a democratic parent by always accommodating the aspirations and desires of children. Don’t forget to always discuss things or decisions together with the agreement of the parents and children. This way they will feel valued and included.
Stop Comparing Them to Boys
Girls are generally not as simple as boys. They have different points of view and tend to be more complex involving their feelings and hearts. Now, one of the successes in educating girls is caring for them and getting them to be cared for. This will make the child feel valuable in his family and have a position that is recognized by the parents.
When you face certain situations where the roles of girls are not as good as boys in some ways, then never compare them. However there is always a limit between the abilities of women and men. Instead of getting dizzy with constantly finding fault with your daughter, it would be better if you take lessons from everything. Your daughter may not be good at one area that men can do, but look at her abilities in other things.
In addition, reduce your belief that girls and boys are equal and equal. Emancipation is indeed a modern form of thought, however there will always be a line between girls and boys. Stop thinking that being masculine and looking simple is much better than being feminine. After all, girls are gentle gods who always want to look good. As long as your child’s appearance is not overblown, then give them the opportunity to be themselves.
Develop His Own Potential To Train His Independence
The basic nature of a woman is to feel loved and appreciated when they are helped. However, as parents we must continue to develop the abilities and potentials that exist in children. Not because of the heart or lack of affection for our children, but this will make them become independent individuals. After they find skills and are able to develop them well, this potential can become a source of livelihood for them to be more independent, especially when they are far from you.
Loving Your Partner Wholeheartedly
As explained above, the most powerful lesson in educating children is what they see. For that, by loving your wife or partner wholeheartedly will be able to touch the deepest recesses of your daughter’s heart. When a daughter sees their father treating her mother with love or vice versa, their mother serves her father responsibly and patiently, this will indirectly instill in the child to do the same or even become a role model for them. In addition, by behaving well will make children have no reason to refuse advice from you because they will respect and respect you so much.
Avoid using harsh words
When you are in a home or environment, especially a public place, and we find someone irritating and upsetting, it feels very difficult to control anger by not saying words that represent the anger. However, what you say will be recorded and absorbed by children, especially girls.
For that, how annoyed and angry you are, when dealing with or in front of your daughter, you should control your anger and try to reduce your anger, try not to say dirty words that the children might imitate. In addition, the patience you show will automatically be adopted by your daughter and judge that their parents are patient and wise.
Educating girls is not as simple as boys. However, giving examples and being a good role model are powerful things in educating children. Hopefully the points above can be useful for all parents in educating their children.