Mother, have you ever taken your little one to a place and when you came to that place there was a relative, friend or relative who had physical limitations?
Then how does your child react when he sees the physical difference between himself and the person he sees?
Yes, often when accidentally when your little one meets or meets someone who has a physical disability, they will respond spontaneously by giving surprising opinions. Sometimes this opinion is expressed in a loud and outspoken tone that makes us parents feel bad about that person. Yes the name too children, their innocence when they get something new, including when they encounter people who have physical differences with them, they will spontaneously give a carefree response without considering what they say.
Generally, this difference will begin to be caught by children from the age of 4 years and over. At this age, children can understand their condition with other people. In addition, children will develop a new attitude, namely the ability to start comparing what they have with others. Where when they find that what other people have is not the same as what they know, then they will automatically ask us adults, as well as when children witness the physical differences that other people have.
This is of course natural, considering the children’s limited knowledge. In addition, children are not able to consider their actions and words to be bad and can hurt the feelings of others. For this reason, the role of parents will be needed here.
As parents, it is our duty to be able to educate and manage children’s attitudes so that when they are confronted with their environment, children can sort out what they can and cannot do.
When you take the children to a public place and the child asks the question “Ma, why are you using a stick?”, “Ma, why is that mother sitting on the pushchair?” and so forth. So, it’s time, you as a parent must be able to explain to children about these differences and train them to be able to appreciate the differences that each person has.
Teaching children about how to respect others, might be quite difficult. In addition, you will likely get challenges and obstacles. For example, there are so many questions from the little one, the difficulty of the child to absorb reasons and so on. However, if you are patient and keep trying teach this to your little one, then slowly but surely they will be able to understand.
Then, what are the ways to train and teach your little one to be able to appreciate physical differences in other people? Some of the tips below can be applied to your baby.
1. Instill Early on the Greatness of God
Getting children to know and know their God is an important lesson that should be done since they are young. Likewise, when children begin to understand and compare the physical differences they see.
Explain to the child, that God Almighty has created humans with various advantages and disadvantages. Also tell the children that every human being is given his own weaknesses and is blessed with advantages in his life. Where these shortcomings must be grateful and accept the advantages as a gift from God Almighty.
Likewise, when a child sees someone who has lost his leg and cannot walk. They may immediately ask you spontaneously. Well, this is where you can instruct them that even though the person cannot walk, he is adept at using his feet to do many things using his hands. Even though God took his leg, God has replaced him with the two whole hands that he still has. This is also where children must be taught how to be grateful.
In addition, make children understand that the shortcomings of other people are not something sad and should be discussed or made fun of. On the other hand, give an insight to the children that they are still the same as him and one of God’s servants that we must respect.
When children begin to understand, they will be able to appreciate other people who are different from them. In addition, it is hoped that the children will be able to influence their friends to appreciate it too.
2. Teach Children To Be Better Grateful For Their Condition
Another lesson that can be taught to children when they see for themselves the different physical conditions of others is to teach children to be grateful for the conditions they have. Make children understand that they are much more fortunate to be given perfection by God and given the ability to do everything with a complete body. For that, they must always be able to take care of it well and do it in the right way by helping others who are unable. This way the child will have a sense of empathy to be able to help each other with others.
3. Train Children So They Are Willing and Dare to Give Good Influence to Their Friends
When children have gained a new understanding of the physical differences of other people they have witnessed themselves. Children also need to be given an understanding so that they are able to have a positive influence on their friends. When children play with their friends and they see other people who have physical limitations, it is not appropriate for them to make fun of them. Instead, they must be able to help and share with each other. Also instill in your child that entertaining and pleasing others is a reward.
4. Invite Children to Play Empathy Games
Explaining the theory of respecting other people alone will not be enough to make children feel how difficult it is to be someone with physical limitations. For this reason, parents need to teach children and invite them to play empathy games. In this case you can act as an ordinary person while the child becomes a person who has physical limitations. Make them understand what it feels like and how difficult it is to live with limitations. This way they will understand very well how to appreciate.
5. Read an inspirational story about a person with limitations who can succeed
Read stories to children or you can access internet media to inspire children that people who have limitations do not mean people who can’t do anything. There are so many inspirational stories that make people with limitations succeed and even have success surpassing normal people. This way, children will understand how to respect other people, especially those with limitations.
Teaching children how to respect others is not just limited to respecting people who have physical differences. Children also need to be provided with education to respect other people in various aspects of life. Hopefully the tips above can help mothers instill respect in their children when they see physical differences in others.