In some cases, fathers and mothers find their cheerful and obedient child suddenly turning into an explosive, sentimental, rebellious, hyperactive, whiny aggressive child and several other undesirable traits. This is where the role and patience of the father and mother as parents are being tested.
But don’t worry, we need to understand that the above characteristics are normal things that happen to children. Like adults who are not always perfect, children can sometimes behave unpleasantly and are considered annoying. But the most important thing is to teach the limits of reasonableness to young children is a compulsory task for a parent.
Causes of Unruly Children
If the father and mother find a child who suddenly becomes angry, has a negative character and is unruly, before scolding him blindly, it is better if the father and mother introspect first, is there a character that makes the child feel less cared for, frustrated or depressed. Because basically, children who are not given enough attention will do anything they can to get the attention of their parents and the people around them. So don’t be surprised when you are in a crowd, then suddenly your little one becomes unruly and tends to be disobedient. In addition, another reason is because the child has problems adapting to his environment. Or it could be that he is a typical anti-social person who withdraws from the environment.
When dealing with a child who is unruly, scolding him is not a smart solution to solving problems. On the other hand, letting the child continue to act like this, because the father and mother are tired of their behavior, is also not a wise move. As parents, educating children is an obligation. So that fathers and mothers can cope with unruly children.
Here are smart tips to overcome it:
1. Take an approach
When a child is fussy and unruly, responding loudly and hotly does not solve the problem, on the contrary the child will actually be more fussy and difficult to control. When this happens in public, the father and mother will be a little inconvenient. For that, take a gentle approach and start giving him wise advice, make him understand that what he wants is not a good thing. keep your father and mother’s consistency, like for example when he wants ice cream, after mom and dad forbid him by saying no, then keep it up until your little one obeys. That way the children will begin to get used to and obey the words of the father and mother.
2. Show a strong determination
In addition to consistency that needs to be maintained, strong determination also needs to be shown. When faced with a difficult fight with a child, parents must always show strong determination. This is important, because when we give up, even if we don’t say it, the children will know whether they can win or not. With a strong determination you must have the strength internally to keep your child away from the things that are bad for him. Children should be able to see the determination and inner strength of their parents to correct them when they are wrong and know that you are doing it out of compassion.
3. Create Special Rules
Other smart tips that mothers and fathers can do is to make special rules that have been discussed with your little one beforehand. This rule certainly has consequences so that children try to avoid these naughty acts. The more patient fathers and mothers are, the easier the children will be to control. And don’t forget to enforce the rules that have been made so that your little one still remembers the boundaries. In addition, always give him awards when he does good things, namely by giving him praise.